Reclaim the safety, trust, and connection you didn’t grow up with.
Therapy in Houston, Texas | Minneapolis & St. Paul, Minnesota | Denver, Colorado
Relational trauma happens in the context of relationships—often early, often chronically. It’s the slow, accumulating impact of emotional neglect, enmeshment, repeated invalidation, or feeling like your needs were too much—or never enough. These experiences can quietly fracture your sense of safety, trust, and connection. Over time, they shape how you relate to others and how you see yourself.
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You might have learned to perform strength while quietly struggling with shame, disconnection, or confusion about your worth. You might long for closeness but feel guarded, numb, or reactive when it actually shows up. Or maybe you're just exhausted—always managing how you come across, constantly gauging other people’s moods, hypervigilant about being too much, too emotional, too needy, or not enough of something else.
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These wounds don’t just disappear with time. But they can be tended to—with care, curiosity, and the right support.
​Ways this might show up in your life:
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You feel overly responsible for others’ emotions, needs, or reactions - fearing rejection or conflict.
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It’s hard to relax in relationships—you’re always scanning for signs of rejection or conflict
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You struggle to express needs, set boundaries, or say no without guilt
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You second-guess your perceptions or choices, especially when others disagree with you
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You feel emotionally numb, disconnected, or unsure of what you’re even feeling
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You crave closeness but pull away or shut down when things get vulnerable
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You stay in relationships that hurt—or isolate to avoid getting hurt
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You over-function (or under-function) in work, friendships, or family roles
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You feel unseen, misunderstood, or like you’re always performing
What we can do in therapy to help:
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Explore how early experiences shaped your inner world—and how the parts of you that show up in relationships are working to protect you, even when their strategies no longer serve you.
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Build awareness of different parts of you—especially the ones that overwork, withdraw, or try to keep you safe
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Practice expressing needs and setting boundaries from a grounded, compassionate place
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Help the hypervigilant parts feel less burdened and more supported
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Work through shame and self-doubt with curiosity rather than judgment
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Practice secure relating in a space where you don’t have to earn your worth.
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Heal the parts of you that learned to disconnect, over-function, or hide your needs.
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Strengthen your inner sense of clarity, calm, and confidence—so you can lead from your "Core Self" more often.
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Move toward relationships that feel mutual, nourishing, and emotionally honest.
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