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  • Sarah Rossmiller LPC

Embracing Spontaneity and Play in Adulthood: 5 Ways to Fulfill Unmet Childhood Needs

(Part 5 of a 6 part series on the 5 Core Emotional Needs)

Childhood is often associated with boundless curiosity, uninhibited play, and spontaneous adventures. Unfortunately, not everyone gets to experience this carefree stage in life due to various circumstances. However, the good news is that it's never too late to tap into your inner child and fulfill those unmet needs for spontaneity and play. In this blog post, we'll explore five ways to infuse more spontaneity and playfulness into your adult life, even if you missed out on it as a child.


1. Rediscover Your Passions

One of the most powerful ways to bring spontaneity and play into your life is by rediscovering your passions and hobbies. Think back to what excited you as a child, whether it was drawing, playing a musical instrument, dancing, or any other creative pursuit. Reconnect (or connect for the first time) with those activities, and don't worry about perfection; the goal here is to have fun and ignite your sense of wonder.

2. Embrace the Power of Playdates

Who says playdates are just for kids? As adults, we can benefit immensely from spending quality time with friends and loved ones engaging in playful activities. Plan spontaneous get-togethers, picnics, board game nights, putt-putt, arcade day, or even a trip to an amusement park. These moments of shared joy and laughter can help you recapture the spirit of playfulness.

3. Explore New Adventures

Adulthood doesn't mean you have to stop exploring and trying new things. Make a list of activities or places you've always wanted to experience and start checking them off. Whether it's traveling to a new destination, trying a new sport or hobby, or even taking a spontaneous road trip, embracing the unknown can infuse your life with a sense of adventure and spontaneity.

4. Practice Mindfulness and Presence

Sometimes, the key to rediscovering playfulness lies in being fully present in the moment. Engaging in mindfulness practices, such as meditation or yoga, can help you become more aware of your surroundings and open to spontaneous opportunities. When you're grounded in the present, you're more likely to notice and seize moments of playfulness as they arise.

5. Challenge Your Comfort Zone

Breaking free from routines and comfort zones is essential for nurturing spontaneity. Push yourself to say "yes" to unexpected opportunities and challenges. Attend a dance class, participate in a local theater production, or volunteer for a charity event. By stepping outside your comfort zone, you'll not only have fun but also develop a newfound sense of confidence and playfulness.


While the absence of spontaneity and play in childhood can be disappointing, it's important to remember that we have the power to rekindle these essential aspects of life in adulthood. By rediscovering your passions, enjoying playdates with friends, exploring new adventures, practicing mindfulness, and challenging your comfort zone, you can cultivate a more spontaneous and playful adult life. Embrace your inner child, and let the joy and wonder of play enrich your everyday experiences. After all, life is too short to be serious all the time; it's time to play!


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